QUIZLET: Do you Experience Sexual Attraction?

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This short quiz is designed to help you identify whether or not you experience sexual attraction (one of many forms of attraction). Obviously this experience will vary wildly from individual to individual so if you feel as though this quiz doesn’t represent you for whatever reason, please comment and let me know so I can improve it. 🙂
This is a tool only and does not have the final say on your orientation or identity – only you can decide that!
And of course, you don’t have to accept any labels if they don’t work for you. The labels are for description only and you do not have to try to conform to them!

On to the quiz:

Section A

  1. Do you ever look at someone and feel tingly or hot in your abdomen or groin?
  2. Do you ever see someone and think hurrghbfdsjkls?
  3. Do you ever look at someone and feel your face go slack and/or your pulse and breathing rates increase?
  4. Do you ever look at someone and feel like you want to have sex with them?
  5. Have you ever been able to get turned on just thinking about someone (no scenario or fantasy – just the person)?

Section B

  1. Do you feel any of the Section A responses only after you have gotten to know someone very well?
  2. Do you feel as though you might experience some of the Section A responses, but only slightly?
  3. Do you ever experience Section A feelings, but have them fade rapidly if they are reciprocated?
  4. Do you ever find that you experience Section A responses to things that are not related to a person (but rather related to a scenario, concept, or object)?
  5. Do you feel as though you only experience the Section A responses extremely rarely?
  6. Do you feel as though your ability to experience Section A responses varies wildly and randomly over time?

Results:

Yes to anything in Section A = It is likely that you experience some form of sexual attraction. You are likely to be allosexual/zedsexual or greysexual.
Recommended next identity quiz: What is my sexual orientation?

Yes to anything in section B = It is likely that you experience some form of sexual attraction but it is limited or under strict conditions. You are likely to be on the greysexual spectrum (a category of asexuality)

Recommended next identity quiz: Where am I on the asexual spectrum? (Coming soon!)

No to everything = It is likely that you do not experience sexual attraction. You are likely to be asexual.

Recommended next identity quiz: Do I experience romantic attraction? (Coming soon!)

What was your quiz result? Did you learn something new about yourself?
What did you think of this quiz? Was it helpful, or was there some room for improvement?
Please leave your thoughts in the comments below!

QUIZLET: What is your Sexual Orientation?

It is recommended that you do this other quiz first to understand what is meant here by sexual attraction and to determine whether or not you experience sexual attraction (as there are many forms of attraction).
Note that I have included androsexual, gynosexual and skoliosexual in this quiz to remove the dependance of sexual orientation on your gender identity. These terms can be helpful for non-binary or transgender individuals, but you do not have to be non-binary or transgender to identify with them!
Also note that there is overlap between some of the terms in this quiz and it is okay to identify with more than one (for example, you could identify as homosexual and androsexual if you are a male).
Once again, this quiz is a tool only and does not have the final say on your orientation or identity – only you can decide that!

Let’s begin!

  1. Do you experience sexual attraction?
    If NO, you could be asexual.
    Next recommended quiz: Do I experience romantic attraction? (Coming soon!)
    If YES or SOMETIMES, continue.
  1. Do you experience sexual attraction exclusively to people of the same gender as you?
    If YES, you could be homosexual or grey-homosexual.
    Next recommended quiz: Do I experience romantic attraction? (Coming soon!)
    If YES or NO, continue.
  1. Do you experience sexual attraction exclusively to people of a gender other than what you identify as?
    If YES, you could be heterosexual or grey-heterosexual.
    Next recommended quiz: Do I experience romantic attraction? (Coming soon!)

    If YES or NO, continue.

  1. Do you experience sexual attraction exclusively towards males or people who present as masculine?
    If YES, you could be androsexual or grey-androsexual.
    Next recommended quiz: Do I experience romantic attraction? (Coming soon!)
    If NO, continue.
  1. Do you experience sexual attraction exclusively towards females or people who present as feminine?
    If YES, you could be gynosexual or grey-gynosexual.
    Next recommended quiz: Do I experience romantic attraction? (Coming soon!)
    If NO, continue.
  1. Do you experience sexual attraction exclusively towards non-binary individuals or people who present as androgynous?
    If YES, you could be skoliosexual or grey-skoliosexual.
    Next recommended quiz: Do I experience romantic attraction? (Coming soon!)
    If NO, continue.
  1. Do you experience sexual attraction to people of more than one gender?
    If YES, you could be bisexual/pansexual/polysexual or grey-bisexual/pansexual/polysexual. Next recommended quiz: Am I bisexual, pansexual, or polysexual? (Coming soon!)
    If YES or NO, continue.
  1. Do you experience sexual attraction to people independent of their gender?
    If YES, you could be bisexual/pansexual/polysexual or grey-bisexual/pansexual/polysexual. Next recommended quiz: Am I bisexual, pansexual, or polysexual? (Coming soon!)
    If YES or NO, continue.
  1. Do you experience sexual attraction primarily towards people of one gender, but occasionally towards people of another/other gender/s?
    If YES, you could be bisexual/pansexual/polysexual or grey-bisexual/pansexual/polysexual.
    Next recommended quiz: Am I bisexual, pansexual, or polysexual? (Coming soon!)
    If NO, continue.
  1. Do you experience sexual attraction towards people of one gender and people of another/other gender/s in roughly equal amounts?
    If YES, you could be bisexual/pansexual/polysexual or grey-bisexual/pansexual/polysexual.
    Next recommended quiz: Am I bisexual, pansexual, or polysexual? (Coming soon!)

What did you think of this quiz? What is your sexual orientation and was this quiz accurate for you? I welcome any and all comments and suggestions!

coming out as ace (asexual)

It’s been quite a while since I last posted, and that’s mostly because I’ve had a pretty confusing time recently. For the past month or so, I’ve been coming to terms with the fact that I’m not actually pan/bisexual (like I stated in a previous post), but rather a pan/biromantic asexual.

I cannot describe the relief I feel at finally having a label for my sexual orientation that accurately describes me. Where I used pan/bisexual to describe me before, I was never really convinced that it fit properly, but I just picked it up as ‘close enough’ and wore it slightly hesitantly. That being said, it has also been pretty frightening to come to terms with because I identify with the label so strongly. While I was not 100% comfortable with my previous label, I could deny parts of it, deep down, to myself. I could tell myself that I didn’t have to feel responsible for telling people about my orientation, that I didn’t want to tell people in case I confused them (because it confused me), and that I could just ignore my sexual orientation most of the time because there didn’t really seem to be a description that applied to me. I think I came out to maybe three people in the three or so years that I identified as pan/bisexual.

I’ve come out to more than that about my asexuality in the past week alone. Why? Part of it is that I really want people to understand me better. I’m a pretty closed off and confusing/confused person, so if I can find a label that carries with it an entire description about me, I want to use it. Granted, most people don’t really know anything about asexuality or its description, but I’m not opposed to explaining it if I can pull up a page on the internet to back me up. Here are some of the questions I have prepared for. I have been asked some but not all of them (yet).


What is asexuality?

Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction to anyone. I am not sexually attracted to anyone regardless of their gender, age, ethnicity, or appearance.

So, you’re against sex?

Personally, I am not against sex or repulsed by it. I actually enjoy it. This is not true for all asexuals, and there are many who are repulsed by sex, or are simply not interested in it.

But if you have sex, how are you asexual?

Sex drive/libido and sexual attraction are two seperate concepts. I have a pretty average sex drive, which means that sexual activity is common and important for me. I am just not sexually excited or aroused by people in general. Again, there are many asexuals who do not have sex. There are also many people of other sexual orientations who do not have sex. There are many reasons why people do or do not have sex and they may be completely unrelated to sexual orientation.

But you’re in a relationship…?

Yes, I am. I love and care deeply for my boyfriend despite lacking sexual attraction. I am romantically attracted to him and our relationship is extremely important to me.

What is romantic attraction?

Romantic attraction is the desire to be emotionally involved in a relationship with someone. I enjoy cuddling and dates and being emotionally involved in my partner’s life. For me, this is more than enough reason to be in a relationship. I feel it is important to note here, that just like sexual attraction, not all people experience romantic attraction. People who don’t are aromantic, and may or may not choose to enter into relationships – romantic, sexual or otherwise.

What is pan/biromantic?

The pan- and bi- prefixes work with romantic orientation in the same way as they work with sexual orientation. So a panromantic person is someone who experiences romantic attraction to people regardless of gender. A biromantic person is someone who experiences romantic attraction to people of the same gender as themself, as well as another gender (or other genders).

Well, which are you? Pan- or bi- romantic? 

It is often assumed that biromantic people are only attracted to men and women, but there is disagreement on the exact definition. I use biromantic because the bi-prefix is more well known and understood and doesn’t require an in-depth explanation about gender identity. This is especially important if I’m talking to someone that I don’t really want to know about my own queerness with regards to gender. Depending on the definition used, biromanticism does fit me since I do experience romantic attraction to people of a variety of genders. Panromanticism also fits me though, and possibly fits me better, because my romantic attraction to people is not really affected much by the gender of the person.


So this has really been central to my thoughts for the past month or so. I did have one panicked moment where I doubted everything I’d realised and thought “what if I’m not actually ace and I’ve just lied to all those people I’ve told and they’ll never believe me again and aaaaaah~” but when I took a moment to calm down, I realised that I’ve never really been interested in sex or anything sexualised in the media, or in shops, or in stories/movies/tv.

I had a friend who once told me that sexual release is like breathing – it’s natural and necessary and something that people just need to do every now and then. I don’t know how true his statement is, but I feel like it applies quite well to me. Sex, to me, is just a bodily function and I never really understood why society and the media seem to want to focus on and revolve around sex so much. I realise now that it isn’t really the act of sex that they’re focusing on, but rather the sexual attraction and playing it up. But that’s a topic for another post.

Thanks for reading! Feel free to ask any questions and share your thoughts and opinions (especially if I have made any mistakes! This is all new to me).

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